10 Reasons Why I Bombed Being a SAHM
I pretty much knew from the day I had my first baby that I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. I had this rosy idea of how wonderful it would be but as often happens the dream is very different from reality. It took me a long time to accept that I wasn’t supposed to love every minute of my time with my children and that a lot of other women felt the same way.
It was difficult for me to accept that I was not one of those women who thrived being around my children and doing all things good housewives do. I often felt overwhelmed and longed for those days of being kid free.
So here’s my TOP 10 Reasons of Why I Sucked Being a SAHM
#1 Baths
My kids didn’t take a bath every night. I know it settles them down and makes a great bedtime routine yadda yadda yadda but by the time supper is over, homework is done, we’re on to pyjamas, brushing teeth and reading books. I can’t imagine trying to squish in three baths on top of that. Not to mention the mess left behind. I was lucky if we managed to do it once a week.
#2
I recycle 95% of their artwork and 99.9% of their schoolwork usually on the same day they bring it home. I ooh and awe over it and then it just sits on my counter. Out of sight out of mind. I used to keep it. Now I have a bin full. My fridge is still covered but I rotate and recycle regularly.
#3
I was sitting on the toilet and realized I needed to vacuum my bedroom because of the black hair that was matting the carpet in the doorway. I had to clean my room first from confiscated toys, outgrown clothes and toilet paper. (In my defence we have two cats) Why is that our personal space is always the last to get cleaned and is the dumping ground for everything else in the house?
#4
Those giant bags of toilet paper you buy at Cost-co? They sit on the floor of my room until we use them all up. They have no real home.
#5
I’ve been going through my room for two days to figure out where that smell is coming from. I’m still not sure.
#6
I would make my kids lunch first, put on a show and then make my own lunch and open up a book or log onto the computer.
#7
I pretty much would rather read than clean and have to tear myself away just to get the basics done. Same goes for playing cars, barbies or listening to “concerts”.
#8
I buy my kids dark underwear so I don’t have to see track marks when I do laundry and when my 6-year-old had an accident, I just tossed her underwear. Enough said.
#9
If I lived in a place that was sunnier, I’d pretty much make my kids eat outside 365 days a year. Right now, I’m restricted to our short summer. It’s not so annoying when you find dried up bread crusts under the porch instead of the couch. Plus we’re helping the wildlife. It’s a win-win.
#10. I often yell at my kids. I’m not proud of it and I’m trying to do better but there it is. The one reason why I dread the summer and open windows.
Now as a parent of three teens, I realized that I was often over-stressed on what I should be doing rather than what I was doing which was providing my kids with a home that was full of love even if it wasn’t perfect.
What’s on your list?
